# Peace in People It has been one of the quieter weeks in my life—not because it had to be, but because I chose it to be. Silence has consequences. Some good, some uncomfortable. A few unexpected. One moment stood out among them all—the *“kismart”* story—a quiet, bro-to-bro exchange that shifted my perspective. --- ## The Setting I decided to end the week by meditating at a place I had visited before for the same purpose. Upon arrival, I set my timer for an hour on my watch. I had left my phone behind intentionally—this was routine for me. I sat reflecting—less about the week itself and more about life in general. Just as I was about to leave, a guy walked in—the messenger of the hour. --- ## The Encounter He asked for my name. I told him. He didn’t introduce himself. Instead, he sat quietly for a moment. When he finally broke the silence, he said he loved that I was meditating—but added that I shouldn’t do it alone. > “Try weed.” He repeated it several times throughout our conversation. Strangely, I had already imagined someone telling me to try *weed*. My mind does that sometimes. Earlier, he had arrived and sat at a distance where we could see each other, though not clearly. We were the only two people there without company. I guess he decided to break the solitude. He told me he had *“done it all”*—whatever I am sharing. --- ## His Story He said it hurts. He acknowledged his mistakes and embraced the consequences. > The worse the hurt and consequences, the better the lesson. He had recovered at some point—but fell again for a while. I gave him an ear. We were different in many ways, yet I created space for him to talk. He spoke sense, and I wasn’t amazed. That’s why I listen to anyone, regardless of who they are. --- ## What He Shared ### 1. Avoid Alcohol, Spirits, and Women *(Notably, he excluded “weed”—his “weed”)* He reasoned that alcohol, spirits, and women often work together in weakening a man. He spoke with regret—especially about sex—saying each encounter took more from him than he expected and required time to recover from. --- ### 2. Learn Whom to Trust and Invest In Not everyone deserves access to you. He was clearly against women, but I listened without inserting my opinion. > Have friends. Invest in them. Don’t expect anything in return. He emphasized that relationships are shaped by current connections. --- ### 3. Invest in Yourself > “Not even your child will want to be hurried with you.” He described meditation as a tool that pulls you away from the world so you can observe yourself clearly. > Once you see your end goal, do the opposite of the majority. Self-investment builds confidence and presence—it commands attention without effort. --- ### 4. Meditate Before Action > Think before you act. He came to that place for the same reason I did. Meditation, he said, saves time—and time is vividly valuable. --- ### 5. Don’t Change—Stay Who You Are > Be who you are, yesterday and today. This felt like a quiet challenge. He warned against constantly changing and wearing fake confidence to justify it. --- ## The Contradiction He said more—some shaped by experience, some debatable. He stressed avoiding uncontrolled sex at all costs. According to him, it is manipulative and should only exist within a deeply intentional connection. Ironically, he still had plans to pursue a girl—but on his own terms. --- ## His Closing Words > “That’s my years’ advice. Challenges are common, but avoid alcohol, spirits, and women. > And if you must consider something… consider weed.” He ended it with: > “kismart.” I didn’t know what to say. I simply told him *thank you* in Swahili. --- ## What Stayed With Me With the little guided knowledge—wisdom—I have, this is what remained: > Everything remains constant. What changes is what you lean on—your *weed*. His was *weed*. Mine is God. That’s who I was speaking to in my meditation. That’s what I would advise. --- ## Closing Thought Peace is found in people. Listen. Connect. In that moment, I found a small sense of peace—and enough confidence to take the next step. --- If this resonated with you, share it with a friend who might need it too. And if you're also on this journey of identity, friendship, faith, and emotional growth, stay connected. There’s more coming soon — especially around friendship, attachment, expectations, and what healthy connection actually looks like. <div align="left"> [](https://shikandaimmanuel.vercel.app/blog) [](https://www.youtube.com/@BeJustThat) </div> — **Be just that**
